Proving infidelity requires a little detective work. Cheating spouses generally leave clues!

Proving infidelity involves some investigation. There are many ways to do this and the more investigations you conduct, the better your chances of catching your cheating spouse.

Proving infidelity of my spouse was easy once I scrutinized his cell phone and his statements. When my private investigator told me that he was on his way to Disneyland, I went through my cell phone statement online. I had searched it several days before, but I did not realize that there were additional pages that I had not seen before.

On these unseen pages, was a phone number from an area code approximately 250 miles away. I called the number from my unlisted home phone and the answering machine had a young female voice. Unfortunately, I could not understand her name. This was the number of my husband's mistress. My private investigator tried to get a name from a reverse telephone directory but she was unsuccessful at getting the correct name.

My husband's lover decided to add him to her cell phone account and bought him a new phone. She did this so that I would not get suspicious of them and be able to locate her phone number on my phone bill. When he first got the new phone, he called the new number from his old phone that was under my family plan. When I was told that he was cheating on me, I called all the phone numbers on his statement that were not familiar to me. When I called this particular number I heard a female voice on the answering machine.

Several weeks later, I let myself into his car while he was at work. I didn't actually "break" into it as I had the keys and I was on the title and the loan. At the time, I had a suspicion that he had another phone, but could not confirm it. While I searched his car, I came across the new cell phone and was able to retrieve the phone number from it and it matched the number he had called from his old cell phone.

I searched through the text messages and found many love letters sent between the two of them. I also found out her first name, finally! It was terribly upsetting to me to read all those letters, but it gave me more information that he could not refute. By proving infidelity, I now had enough evidence to confront him.

I wrote down the dates and times of their calls and the content of their messages. She gave the phone to him before he moved out of my house and they would send text messages back and forth after I went to bed at night.

Several months later, while I was going through his email account, I found out that he had purchased a new phone and cell service in his name. I called this new phone number and there was no message on the answering machine. I knew it was his! I tried his PIN code that he has for the phone under my plan and it worked. I was able to retrieve messages from his new phone. I never did retrieve any voice messages from her, however. I just did not know where the phone was.

At the time, she had moved out of state and they were no longer seeing each other. My husband had moved back home and left his other home vacant. One night, I told him that I needed to go to the store and I took his car and went to the other house. While there, I searched through his dresser and found his cell phone. There were several pornographic picture and video messages from her and text messages between the two of them. The messages stopped just before he moved back home.

I didn't want him to have these images, but I could not just erase them or he would get mad at me for getting into his house and for not trusting him. So, I took the phone home with me so that I could think about a way to get rid of the images without raising his suspicions.

The next day, while he was at work, I deleted all the messages then I opened the back of the phone and pulled out the wires connecting the keypad to the video screen. The phone would turn on, but you could not see anything on the screen and could not hear anything. I figured that he would think that the phone just "shorted" out.

That was several months ago and he has not said a word about it. I'm sure he would be very embarrassed if he found out what I had seen. He still pays the bill and the phone is still over at the other house. I check on his account online periodically and he has not received any phone calls or text messages to that number. He has not made any calls from it either!

Proving infidelity can definitely be made easier by investigating your spouses cell phone. Anyone can erase the history from their cell phone, but they can't erase the data saved by the cell phone company. And, that is why it is so important to review those billing statements. Our cell phone provider, Verizon Wireless, allows me to look at all the calls made and answered by any phone on my plan and also to look to whom text and video messages are going to and coming from.

It is also extremely important to search your partner's belongings from time to time if you suspect that he or she has cheated on you or know for a fact that they have in the past. Credit card and bank statement can also be useful in proving infidelity as your spouse may have purchased gifts for the new partner, paid for hotel stays, and/or expensive dinners.

Proving infidelity was made easier by scrutinizing my husband's credit card statements. I found out that my husband took his girlfriend to a very nice hotel in San Francisco two weeks before he moved out of our home. He told me that he was going alone, but he would have gotten a cheap hotel if that were true. He paid several hundred dollars for a nice hotel to impress her on their first sexual encounter.

I found out later, after looking through his credit union statements, that he had taken her to the movies one Sunday night when he was supposed to be working. This was about 6-8 weeks before he left me.

In proving infidelity you will have to be very observant, very patient, and a little bit skeptical with his/her stories. It is best to get all your evidence together before confronting him/her as they will surely deny the affair if the evidence is not overwhelming. Several methods used at the same time should bring quicker results.

I planted a GPS device immediately upon finding out that my husband was having an affair with the other woman. Meanwhile, I downloaded computer spy software onto my computer so that I could see what he was up to whenever he used my computer. I would search his belongings whenever the opportunity would present itself. And, I used his cell phone to discover his lovers name. Proving infidelity was not difficult, just time consuming.





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